22 Days of Wedding Etiquette – Day 3: How can I back out of my duties as a bridesmaid if I can’t afford and no longer want to do it?
If you think finances might be a problem, talk with the bride about what expenses you might incur before accepting. Bridesmaids typically pay for their own attire (including alterations and shoes), hair, travel expenses and possibly makeup. Other than illness or a family emergency its not acceptable to back out once you’ve committed. If you have no choice but to cancel, its important to let the bride know as soon as possible. ***Brides make sure you are being FAIR to your wedding party. If you know your bridesmaid can’t afford a $350 dress you will need to plan accordingly by doing 3 things: (1) Find a dress with a price point that works for everyone (2) If the dresses mean more to you than who wears them do not ask someone to be in your wedding if they can’t afford it (you know your friends and families financial situations) and (3) Assist them with paying for other things such as jewelry or make-up. This can be tricky because if you do for one you have to do for all.***
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