Q: My son received many gifts for his recent bar mitzvah, but he’s so busy with school that he can’t get this thank-you notes written. Now Crystal Marie, I know what you are going to say, “Handwritten notes are the best!” However, since his father and I gave the party, would it be all right for me to write the notes?
A: Thank you for asking for my 5 cents even though I don’t have kids..lol. Here’s what I think. You can help by seeing that he has the proper addresses, thank you cards, pens and stamps but I think writing out the thank you’s should be your son’s responsibilities. He is at a proper age where he can write a quick little thank you to guests who took the TIME and spent the MONEY to select the right gift for such an important occasion. Since a Bar Mitzvah is known as the coming of age ceremony for young Jewish males, what better way to put this responsibility on him. Since he has a busy schedule (honestly we are all busy), have him write three or four notes everyday before he starts his homework or after any after school activities he might have. Just don’t let him fall back on thanking people. Believe me people will remember that they didn’t get any type of thank you. A handwritten note goes along way. I am still waiting on a thank you card from a wedding 6 years ago