Q: I made a total A*% of myself during my best friend’s wedding last weekend. I was the Maid of Honor and I had one to many drinks. I mentioned some things in the maid of honor speech that I shouldn’t have said and my friend will probably not speak to me. I haven’t spoken to her since because she was on her honeymoon but now she is back and I am ready to make amends? What should I do?
A: Oh boy..you tried it! One thing I can say is that at least you are owning what you did and want to make amends. Your friend’s husband may never raise the subject to you however, your girl might have given him an ear full after the fact and he’s irritated with you as well. It’s up to you to own your actions. It’s best to make amends in person, if you can. A thoughtful gift with a handwritten note including a hearfelt apology, made WITHOUT excuses (after all, YOU drank the champagne), MIGHT earn her forgiveness. Your friendship may require some extra-special nurturing for a while, but isn’t it worth it for your best friend? Also, if she had a wedding planner you put her in a very awkward spot as well..I would have motioned for the DJ to cut you off with some great transition music to keep the party going with a #sorrynotsorry look on my face. What’s done is done but know your limits, hopefully you won’t lose your best friend over this.