I have used this method with a lot of my brides. When you and your fiance have agreed on a set number of guests, utilize this tip.
I know you want Ronnie, Bobby, Ricky and Mike (and their dates) to see you make your entrance, but remember you have to pay for EVERY person that is going to occupy space at the venue. Tips: If you haven’t talked to them in the past 2 years..they shouldn’t be first priority on your list. Yes I know you want to invite your first grade teacher, or your mom wants to invite her best friend from work, but who is going to pay for all these people? This might sound like more work but believe me..it works out in the end. Ask your parent(s) to provide a guest list for the family. This list will be family members and their friends that they feel are important to invite to the wedding. Ask your fiance to have his parent(s) do the same thing. You and your fiance will create separate lists of individuals that you want to invite. From these lists you will develop the priority guest list and the secondary guest list. You will develop these lists by sitting down and discussing who should be added to these list with the creators of the list (your parents, your fiance’s parents and your fiance). For example, your favorite cousin Betty was on your mother’s list. You both agree that she should be on the priority guest list, while you both agree that your great uncle on your mom’s side who you never met might be on the secondary guest list. The secondary guest list will be used to fill in the slots of the people who politely decline due to other obligations. All in all (if you have the funds) you might be able to invite EVERYONE to your wedding but if you have put yourself on a strict budget, some names won’t make it to the priority or secondary guest-list at all. If you use this tip, I assure you everyone who is suppose to be at the wedding will be there.